Finally got to meet Syl today. Haven’t seen her since boxing day. She still looked good although she complained about her heavy workload as a teacher. Sometimes I really salute and admire the way she teaches the kids. Really, nowadays teachers have to multi-task. They’re the counsellor, administrator, friend etc…
She recounted to me about this incident whereby she had to counsel this malay gal who just transferred like 1 or 2 months ago to her school. I was so shocked at what she told me that I decided to write in my blog.
Apparently, this malay gal is quite problematic and her father even came down once which I don’t remember why but it was because of the daughter. So Syl told me that when the father came down, he was donned in this malay baju or whatever you call them and had this black cap on his head which gave the impression that he could be a religious Islamic man.
So Syl told me that she counselled this malay gal. It was funny that nowadays as a teacher, it’s not the same anymore like the last time. You’ve to talk to your students in their "language" to get their attention and to listen to you. So Syl who is already trained in these kind of problematic students proceeded to talk to the gal in her most concerned way. It goes roughly like this,
Syl : So how many boyfriends have you had already?
Gal : 9 la…
She’s only 14 and had 9 boyfriends!! Gosh! Why have I been when i was her age?? Now she has 2 more from the school she just transferred to within 1 or 2 months!! *GASP*
Syl : So what do you do when you meet your boyfriend?
Gal : Oh, go out la.
Syl : So what do you do when you go out?
Gal : Do things la.
Notice at this point, my eyes grew wider as Syl recounted this to me. Well, it might not be exactly what Syl recounted to me but it was roughly like this.
Syl continued to counsel the gal and told her that as a gal, she shouldn’t anyhow let the guys do what they like to her and told her all about sexually transmitted diseases and she should respect her own body as it’s only one body she has, blah blah.. The gal claimed that she’s still a virgin and she only let the guys touch her and nothing else. Syl continued and said but you’ve 9 boyfriends so you’ve let like all the guys touch you and you should value yourself, blah blah blah..
Then the interesting point was, the gal said, " but my mother said it’s ok that the guys touch me as long as they’re my boyfriend." HUH???!
This time my eyes grew even wider and probably my jaws was dropping too..
Interestingly, Syl mentioned something about smoking which I don’t remember what. The gal was like, "cher, how you know I smoke?" Syl was probably rolling her eyes but not in front of the gal, i supposed.
Syl : so who bought the cigarettes for you? Your boyfriend?
Gal : No, my father bought them for me.
Syl : Huh? What do you mean?
Gal : Oh, I started smoking since I was pri 4, my father shared his cigarettes with me but my mother doesn’t know. So my father bought the cigarettes for me.
Syl : ?????!!
Now you know where and how the problematic child came about. From their parents of coz!! I mean what kind of morals would the parents instil on their child if they themselves have no morals at all? Really, Syl and I, we both agreed that we will not have any kids of our own in the future. We ourselves are not even sure how we’re gonna handle children of the next generation. Will we be too open minded unlike our parents’ generation? I really don’t know. I honestly think that children of our next generation will not be as gullible as us anymore. Too much wrong education.
Sigh.. I truly empathize with the teachers.